Teaching an oral child: if the child constantly talks

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From the point of view of psychiatry and psychology, children are extremely complex patients.
Because verbal methods of interaction are often limited. At the same time, younger patients are characterized by various fictions and fantasies. Therefore, diagnosis becomes much more difficult. It is not entirely clear where is fantasy and fiction, and where is the real psychopathological problem. However, it is possible to cope with the examination. One of the mental problems (although this is not always a problem at all) concerns speech. When a child constantly talks to himself. There are quite a few options why: from rich imagination, a feeling of abandonment, to childhood schizophrenia. As a rule, people have an inner voice. It develops at different speeds, so for the first few years there is no point in sounding the alarm.

If the condition continues for a long time and is accompanied by behavioral disorders, you cannot do without consulting a psychotherapist or psychiatrist. Hospitalization may be required to more accurately assess the condition. The issue is complex and is resolved individually, depending on the situation. What do parents need to know? What should you pay attention to?

The main reasons why a child talks to himself

These include:

• Lack of parental attention

The most common reason. This is the other extreme, the opposite of “suffocation” by love. In the described case, the child grows like grass. Left to his own devices. External speech becomes the only compensatory factor. The patient experiences a lack of information. During the entire period of growing up, up to the age of 18-20, this is extremely difficult to bear. Children compensate for the lack intuitively. In such cases there is nothing to fear.

• Lack of communication with peers

It occurs no less often. Children who have a certain personality type often suffer. For example, deep introverts, schizoids. Young patients with incipient schizoid psychopathy or Asperger's syndrome, high-functioning autism. Due to atypical personality traits and behavior that is strange in the opinion of peers, such a patient is subjected to ridicule and bullying. In the best traditions of school education.

As these situations are repeated, a defense mechanism develops. In the outside world, a person is inactive, silent, and does not show initiative. At home - makes up for the lack of communication in such a simple way. Especially often if the parents are not eager to communicate.

• Rich imagination

It is common to most children, but not all express their fantasies verbally. If the patient speaks to himself just like that, outside of games and other things, you should definitely listen to the content of the monologue. Context. Imaginary friends and creatures are quite normal for the first 7-9 years. Plus or minus.

• Stressful situations

Children tend to escape intense mental stress. Talking to oneself, the desire to hide, strange fantasies and games. All these are parts of one whole. In this case, a person tries to escape from reality. So-called escapism occurs. The problem needs to be solved quickly before it gets worse.

• Conflicts in the family

Swearing, scandals, and especially fights are an excessive burden on the psyche of an adult. Needless to say, how destructively they affect children's consciousness? Monologue conversations are another way to escape reality into the comfort and safety of a fantasy world. Physical and mental violence is especially dangerous. This is a factor in the development of psychopathology, including bipolar affective disorder and various types of schizophrenia.

• Game situation

Standard example. In this case, the young man talks to imaginary creatures and fully understands that they do not exist. Or with toys, giving them the properties of a living thing. There is no danger in this case. This is a normal phenomenon. A child who talks to himself learns to play out life situations. Trying on new roles.

• Mental illness

The most extensive and difficult to diagnose layer of conditions. It is not so easy to immediately determine where is fiction and where is psychopathology. Need observation. The issue is resolved by a psychiatrist. The range of possible pathological processes is wide. From schizophrenia to schizoaffective disorder, bipolar affective disorder. Childhood schizophrenia is a fairly rare condition. It accounts for no more than 1.5-2% of the total mass of psychopathologies of young people. By 10-14 years the number grows to 15-20%.

Teaching an oral child: if the child constantly talks

The verbal intelligence that oral children possess is special; it is strikingly different in its essence from the generally accepted concept of thinking in society. “Think first, talk later” is the key to healthy thinking, according to school psychologists and curriculum, which, as a rule, is based on the traditional approach. But in the case of an oral speaker, this happens differently.

2 23717 March 31, 2014 at 00:03 Author of the publication: Olga Mezentseva, teacher at the Kiev Polytechnic Institute

School education can be perceived as an inevitable obligation for a child and his parents, or it can become a happy time for acquiring the necessary skills for implementation in life. It all depends on a competent approach to the child.

Children with the oral vector, as a rule, willingly go to kindergarten and school. The secret is that these talkative kids want to be heard and strive to reach other children, finding their audience in them. You can read about raising oral children here. In this same article we will talk about teaching children with the oral vector at school.

Studying at school is an important stage that sets the direction for the development of children's intelligence, which in the future will provide a person with a high level of realization in society.

Developing intelligence is not an easy task. And first, a parent needs to find out the type of intelligence of his child. The verbal intelligence that oral children possess is special; it is strikingly different in its essence from the socially accepted concept of thinking. “Think first, talk later” is the key to healthy thinking, according to school psychologists and curriculum, which, as a rule, is based on the traditional approach. But in the case of an oral speaker, this happens differently.

Verbal intelligence is different in that first such a person speaks, and then understands what he said. Verbal intelligence is given to the oral speaker to fulfill his specific role. Since his task is to notify the flock of danger, he must do this immediately, without slowing down the execution by deliberation. Here a natural question arises: what then does an oral child say while learning? He says something that will attract the attention of his parents and those around him in general, because he wants only one thing: to be listened to. Based on this, his education at school should be structured.

Little talker

“The child talks constantly. Requests and rude shouts from parents do not help to finally shut up,” are the usual complaints about an oral baby. He harasses his relatives and all those who are within reach with his conversations, and the more they interrupt him and do not listen, the less his speech develops. Since an oral child feels the need to speak, he, as a rule, begins to do this early, and his speech itself at first is characterized by speed, slurredness, incoherence, a lisp; when talking, he can even splash saliva, in a hurry to say as much as possible. It takes a lot of effort to develop the speaking abilities of an oral child, who has the potential to become a brilliant speaker.

First of all, I would like to warn all parents: he will talk constantly. You can throw away the radio and TV - the background noise in the house will be as long as your oral baby is there, and you won't need anything else. The parent’s task here is not to make the child shut up and think “to himself”, in his case this is impossible, but to ensure that the “noise” he makes is meaningful and competent speech.

When teaching your child to read and count, teach him to pronounce new information. He will not silently understand what is written there. He needs to pronounce it, taste the word. Let your child repeat out loud everything you go through with him, no matter how tiring it may be for you. In this regard, the domestic children's textbook industry has taken care of parents: there are talking books on sale. They are beneficial for children, but are especially important for oral children. Because repeating the pronunciation of letters, words, numbers published in a book or computer program is not only educational for him, but also useful. By repeating the same letters in different ways, he recognizes them better and better. The parent himself can leave for a while, and the computer will take over the function of the listener (especially if pronunciation control is configured there).

Of course, it is important for such a child to read aloud and, of course, to have a listener. When moving with your child outside the home, ask him to describe everything he sees around him. If a visual child can do this involuntarily and selectively, then an oral child needs to indicate several accents: speaking should be fully descriptive, he should not miss anything, if he is distracted by his own reasoning or questions, then only regarding what he saw.

As he speaks, he needs to be corrected and what he heard clarified so that he speaks correctly and purely. Teach your child that telling tales and inventions is inappropriate, and you are only interested in the real state of things. Guide him in choosing topics for conversation and listen to him, this is important. Reassurance that he is being listened to gives the oral child a basic sense of security, which has a positive effect on his development.

When entering first grade, parents need to be prepared for the fact that the child will immediately make friends with the whole class, joke and joke around, enjoying everyone’s interest. Teachers often complain about such children because the speaker easily interrupts and “talks over” the teacher, attracting the attention of the entire class and not reacting to comments. Therefore, it is important to switch its properties into a constructive direction.

From the first grade, it is advisable to include him in all children's social events: plays, performances, etc., as well as in electives in reading and developing public speaking skills. Let your child speak up where appropriate.

Reading is something that is directly related to speaking. From the first to the last word, an oral child must read with expression, maintaining the pace, correctly setting logical stresses and pauses. If visual and auditory children, according to the meaning of the text, do this themselves, then this needs to be instilled in the oral child. Initially, he tends to reproduce an emotionless speech stream, sometimes very dense. The sooner it is possible to divide it into intonation-semantic nodes, the better and more clearly his speech will be delivered. Over time, the child will get used to using it.

When silence is not golden: listening to our children

The reproduction of information by an oral child is particularly specific. Homework should be done at home using the same principle of speaking. Only in the books of child psychologists who do not know what they are writing can one find the phrase that a child’s talkativeness slows down his mental development. Let us say right away that an oral child will easily refute this statement when he begins to talk out loud about what he does not understand in his homework.

In the process of speaking, he begins to deduce from what he hears the main thoughts that lead to the correct answer. As a result, insights come to him. It’s as if he’s asking a question to himself and answering it himself. This is due to the fact that an oral person always pronounces subconscious meanings, and consciously perceives them only after voicing them.

Teach your child that, after reading the terms of an incomprehensible task, it would be a good idea to say it out loud: voice the question. In elementary grades, it is legitimate to do this by reading the terms of the tasks out loud. In high school - no longer. To speed up the thinking of an oral child, tasks to describe the situation are useful. By pronouncing it, he understands and understands the material more deeply. With each subsequent task, he develops for himself the necessary baggage of primary concepts, thanks to which he will subsequently be able not to speak out loud the tasks he has received.

Thus, an oral child, preparing for school at home, should do this by talking. If parents are at home at this moment, then they can be convinced that the homework is done by believing their own ears. It is advisable to always leave the doors open when doing homework, so that the feeling is created that the child has a listener for whom he is, in fact, reciting this.

It is very important not to lock such a child at home alone with homework. During the day, he must have time to spend with friends, in the company of other children, also outside of school. If this is not a courtyard, then let it be any nearby creativity development club or discussion club.

In your free time, you can discuss school matters with an oral child, but not from the point of view of rumors, gossip or descriptions of events that have happened, but by discussing completed tasks, everything new and interesting that he learned at school. Such conversations will help him, through verbalization, systematize the material received.

The role of literature in development

Nowhere does the star of the oral gift shine as much as it does in literature classes. Of all the school disciplines, this is the key to healthy mental development for such a child. Starting from the 5th grade, it is important to focus on this discipline. In order to speak clearly and competently, you need to know the language and perceive it correctly.

Poetry recitation is a regular performance in front of the class in high school. Discussions of literary works, retellings, and oral compositions are a significant stimulus for the development of a child’s oral ability. All this allows him to extrovert his properties in line with a good and competent base of classical and fiction literature.

In many schools, there are electives and separate courses in expressive reading and storytelling, in which the child masters the visual and expressive means of language, studies different storytelling styles, and, most importantly, practices them. Having made sure that the program of these courses has a good literary basis, an oral child can be sent there to study until the last school bell. After all, it is important not only what he says, but also what cognitive meaning his message carries.

Speech communication and integration on the idea

The implementation of the oral vector is not just the process of speaking, but speaking for someone, for real listeners. One way or another, the child will attract these listeners to himself, but in what ways he will learn to do this is a question that should concern parents. Lying, telling fables and gossip, or enthusiastically voicing important meanings, fooling around with obscene anecdotes and jokes, or conducting meaningful, literate speech - in the case of an oral person, all options are possible.

Developed verbal intelligence is a powerful tool for bringing people together. And this plays a key role in the development of oral skills. Therefore, in addition to the fact that during school, an oral child learns to speak beautifully, he must always unite with his words the group of people to whom he speaks. Moreover, this unification is possible at different levels: at the lowest - when we physically relax, dying of laughter, or at the highest - when everyone is united in one impulse by a common idea. A higher level means higher realization for a person, which means more joy and pleasure from life.

In order to be able to unite people at the level of an idea, one must feel this idea oneself, and also have developed oratorical abilities. Whether a child reaches the maximum level of realization of his natural capabilities depends on his development before puberty, which is provided to him by his parents and school. A systematic understanding of the child’s characteristics provides all the necessary tools to do this as correctly as possible.

Proofreader: Elena Lavetskaya

Author of the publication: Olga Mezentseva, teacher at the Kiev Polytechnic Institute
The article was written based on materials from the training “System-vector psychology”

Periods of growing up

During childhood and adolescence, speech, verbal and thinking abilities develop gradually. In their formation they go through 3 large stages.

Early childhood - up to 7 years

During this period, almost all children talk to themselves. Especially at 4-5 years old. It's not bad, on the contrary. So the young man tries and develops his speech apparatus. Imitates adults, listens to his own voice. Usually, in this simple way, children try to compensate for the lack of attention. Although it also happens that attention is enough. At 6-7 years old, talking to yourself is quite normal. You need to be wary if there are symptoms of psychopathology. Like voices, hallucinations, delusional constructs. But this happens extremely rarely.

8-10 years

At this age, conversations in monologue or dialogue with fictional creatures occur less frequently. School life begins, communication with peers and teachers. Therefore, the need for compensation for verbal communication becomes lower. On the other hand, nothing changes when a child’s communication fails. Moreover, if he is an outcast, he will be ostracized. At 9-10 years old this is especially noticeable, because early puberty begins.

During my teenage years

The problem usually goes away. At 11-12 years old, the habit of talking to oneself still occurs. Then everything depends on your character and personality. Some accentuations, whether hysterical or schizoid, prefer to pronounce actions out loud. But if the former do it for show, and even with theatrical notes, then the latter do it for the sake of their own convenience. At 13 years of age, the risk of impairment remains. Especially if the patient has no friends. Puberty ends at the age of 15-16. Talking to yourself is not a practice. Unless we are talking about personality type. At 13-16 years of age, the manifestation of schizophrenia is most likely. Therefore, you need to carefully monitor your teenager. All possible deviations should be checked by a psychiatrist. Because it is better to treat mental pathologies at the first stage, when the chances of recovery are still high.

Talking out loud without psychopathological symptoms is almost always a variant of the clinical norm. Features of character, personality, socialization and approaches to adaptation.

Where is the border?

The “talker” child has not yet fully formed personal boundaries; he does not know what is his and what is not his. Parents easily invade his life and his body, both with actions - for example, washing in the bathroom, helping in the toilet, and with words. For example, they say - and often continuously - what the child needs to do at each moment of time: do not sit, read, eat, walk, talk, stand, sit upright. That is, the child is accustomed to being invaded with the help of a continuous stream of words, and does exactly the same with family members. Yes, of course, it’s normal to help a small child with everything, and to talk like a radio for a while when you teach him to talk. But gradually, as they grow older, parents take a mental step back, giving the child more and more independence and separate space, and he learns to do the same with adults in the family and outside the family. Learns to leave them with their own affairs for a while in order to realize their interesting ideas.

Sometimes a child who talks a lot “talks out” his real experiences and secrets. Not wanting to talk about something, he talks about everything in the world, twisting loops like a hare, confusing his tracks, or a bird leading away from the nest. Sometimes he does this deliberately (usually over the age of 6-7 years) - then it may look as if he is lying or making up all sorts of nonsense. And sometimes unconsciously, and even he himself does not really know what he is hiding, it is important for him not to approach scary topics. In such cases, it is worth thinking about what might actually worry and frighten him so much, try to carefully discuss it with the child or show him to a child psychologist. Because behind hidden experiences, various neurotic symptoms often begin to form, which help the psyche hide the terrible thing away.

Symptoms and clinical picture

The standard and most normal manifestation is talking to yourself or fictitious interlocutors. But this can be considered the norm only in some cases:

• the patient has no behavioral disorders, a calm, balanced character;
• there are no productive symptoms: delusions, hallucinations, etc.;
• there are also no negative symptoms: thinking disorders, problems with orientation in space, lack of will;
• the person does not show aggression.

In this case, we are talking about a variant of the clinical norm. If at least one of the signs mentioned above is present, you need to urgently go to a psychiatrist.

When to see a doctor

Consultation with a specialist will be required in the following cases:

1. Aggressive behavior. Possibly the result of personality changes due to a mental disorder. Not necessarily schizophrenia. Attacks of rage and increased irritability are typical of personality disorders, for example, paranoid.
2. Tearfulness, touchiness. In inappropriate manifestations. Also usually in a system with other symptoms.
3. If a child talks to himself, shows cruelty to toys, imaginary people, you need to carefully observe further. Aggression is a typical sign of at least psychological problems. Much more often - psychiatric. From affective disorders to psychoses. Personality disorders and psychopathy are also possible.
4. Lethargy, lethargy, impaired intellectual abilities. Symptoms most often appear in older people. For example, from 12 to 18. And this period manifests one of the most destructive forms of schizophrenia - malignant.
5. Complaints of psychotic symptoms. For example, voices that speak arbitrarily, also derealization, depersonalization, delusional constructions. Be sure to visit a treating psychiatrist.

The appearance of hallucinations and speech before sleep are relatively harmless phenomena. False imagery is defined as hypnagogia. It also occurs in healthy people. Accompanied by audible speech and visual images. Sleep talk occurs in everyone. But it is also not considered a pathology. Therefore, no special treatment is needed. On the other hand, both abnormal phenomena are associated with overwork and excessive activity. These are indicators of fatigue. We need to work out an acceptable schedule. For children - at least 8 hours of sleep, plus a fortified diet, etc.

Diagnostics

Clinical psychologists, psychiatrists, and psychotherapists examine patients with the problem under consideration. In tandem.

The initial examination is carried out by psychologists or staff psychiatrists at the local PND. What exactly is included in the list of studies:

1. Oral interview with the patient's parents. We need to learn more about human behavior from the point of view of loved ones. This will help you understand the situation.
2. Conversation with the patient himself. This is necessary to find out the nature and degree of deviation, if any.
3. In doubtful cases, special didactic material is used. It is necessary to examine the speed and quality of thinking. Within the framework of psychopathologies of the psychotic level (schizophrenia), gross processes of splitting of personality and consciousness are observed.
4. It would be a good idea to conduct a series of simple tests adapted for children.

If psychopathology is not found, it makes sense to talk to a specialist about methods of dealing with the problem.

In severe clinical cases, when productive symptoms are present, hospitalization is indicated. In young years, especially in childhood, simple forms of schizophrenia prevail. This is the most dangerous type in terms of personality disintegration. Has no productive symptoms.

It is quite possible that the cause of the pathological process is organic damage to brain tissue. To cope with this condition, you need to find the source. An MRI of the brain and/or a CT scan is prescribed. An X-ray of the skull is also suitable. Tumors of different localizations are especially common. From low-grade astrocytomas in the medulla to pituitary adenomas in the deep layers. Germinomas are also found. Tumors that are formed from embryonic cells.

Diagnostics should answer the main question: why does the child talk out loud to himself. Then you can prescribe treatment and draw conclusions.

How to properly raise talkative kids

Parents of talkative children do not always understand how to properly raise talkative children. It seems that there is nothing wrong with a child constantly telling something.

But some parents find this behavior alarming and tiring. The baby starts talking as soon as he wakes up and only stops talking when he falls asleep. He constantly interferes in the conversations of adults and other children, interrupts, does not listen, imposes his opinion and convinces him that he is right.

How should parents behave? First of all, understand why the child constantly talks. It happens that a child is just learning to communicate, learning to formulate words and sentences, trying to ask questions, and coming up with answers to them. And, apparently, he really likes this process.

The baby copies the behavior of adults: he pretends to be talking on the phone, spins in front of the mirror, talking to an imaginary interlocutor, and animatedly talks about something to toys in the absence of other listeners.

All this happens in a calm environment, nothing irritates or bothers the child. He talks about his affairs and describes what is happening, sometimes he says frankly fictitious things, but they do not go beyond the bounds of reason.

It’s another matter when excessive talkativeness is caused by anxiety, fear and acts as a protective reaction of the body. This behavior can be recognized by the nature and frequency of questions asked, impulsiveness of speech, excessive gestures and uncontrolled emotions.

In addition, if the child usually talked a lot, and then fell silent, parents should also be wary. This may be an indicator of psychological trauma, fear, anxiety.

Communication should be taught from an early age. It is necessary to explain to a talkative child that he alone cannot always speak. Everyone should have the right to speak up and listen to others. The balance of talkativeness must be maintained by all family members in which a talkative child is growing up.

The child should not be abruptly interrupted during his monologue. You should gently stop him, draw attention to yourself and say what you need.

Treatment Options

Therapy depends on the underlying cause of the pathology. If the reason is a lack of parental attention, everything is solved simply. You need to spend as much time as possible with your children. Especially if there is only 1 child in the family. Talk about interesting topics, take an interest in business. This is the basis. Ignoring their son or daughter, the parent gives them up to be raised by society and the network TV. It is difficult to say in advance how such deprivation will affect the mental state.

Lack of communication with peers is quite difficult to solve. There are several options. First, find the right company. This could be a training team in any section. Or introduce the child to the children of friends. The measure is also effective. For his part, the parent should communicate with his daughter or son as much as possible so that they socialize faster. Otherwise, talking to yourself is the least of your problems. Next will be violations of integration into society. This means problems with work, finding oneself, and meeting one’s own needs.

When the interlocutor is an imaginary being, you need to listen to what they are talking about. It is important to control the content of the monologue.

Children prone to escapism require a special approach. In this case, you cannot cope on your own. We need help from at least a psychologist. Even better - a psychotherapist. The goal is to teach the young man relaxation techniques and ways to cope with stress. Avoid them or deal with such life problems correctly. Medication correction is also possible. But strictly according to indications. For example, if hyperactivity occurs. When a child is inattentive and talks to himself, mild sedatives are prescribed. Depending on the situation, other drugs are also available.

When the reason is in conflict situations, the help of a psychologist is needed. Moreover, it is desirable for all participants in the quarrels, plus the child himself. Having heart-to-heart conversations with yourself is not the worst consequence. If a full-fledged injury develops, in the future it will increase the risks of psychosis, disruption of brain function, and possible provocation of schizophrenia and intense depression. Children suffering from neuroses due to conflicts are prescribed mild sedatives. It is also necessary to create a favorable climate in the family. If you need to sort things out, it’s better to do it away from children.

If there are episodes of such conversation during the game, you do not need to do anything. Unless the games become violent. In such a situation, the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist will not hurt.

Mental disorders are treated strictly under the supervision of a psychiatrist. A group of medications is prescribed:

• sedatives, tranquilizers - to relieve stress, normalize sleep, and partially correct behavior;
• neuroleptics, also known as antipsychotics, eliminate productive symptoms of diseases (hallucinations, delusions and other issues), they are used with caution, most drugs are not suitable for patients under 16-18 years of age, so the question of choice should be left to doctors;
• antidepressants are also practically not prescribed to children due to their lower tendency to depression (if necessary, a specialist will select the dosage and the name itself).

In addition, psychotherapy is indicated. Under the supervision of a specialist of the same name. At a minimum, 10-12 sessions are needed. During treatment, the patient learns new models of thinking, behavior, and understands how to cope with the situation. The ideal option is if parents or at least one of the relatives will be present at the sessions.

Difficult situations that cannot be controlled require hospitalization in a specialized hospital. All the time after discharge, the patient’s behavior must be observed again.

Listen and hear

Does this ever happen to you when you start talking about something incessantly? This happens to almost everyone - at moments when we are too involved and overexcited by what is happening, and we want to share with someone, “drain” the excitement. At the same time, we often speak louder and faster than usual. Children with constant speech activity are often overexcited from morning to evening and day after day. And what they need is reassurance and a reduction in their anxiety. To do this, it is important not to ignore their speech activity and the child himself. When parents answer “yeah” without listening, the child worries even more, tries to unconsciously reach us, speaks even louder, even faster in case he is interrupted, and tries not to stop. It's important to ask him questions about what he's saying and discuss together what makes him so excited. For example, some parents complained that the child immediately began telling everyone, even strangers: “My grandfather died, and he was sick, and we had flowers.” The parents tried to slow down the flow, because they did not think that everyone around them needed to know about it, and all strangers should definitely listen to it. Strangers generally treated the child with sympathy, but the family felt awkward. It turns out that only on the street did strangers listen to the child - at least like this, forcedly. At home, it was too difficult for the parents to talk about the family loss, and they either slowed down the boy or ignored him, not listening to what he said. After the family made up their minds and talked several times about everything that worried everyone so much, the boy stopped actively pestering unknown adults with conversations. A child in difficult situations (new events, mother’s pregnancy, birth of a brother or sister, moving, changing a teacher, death of loved ones) will try to find an interlocutor who will clarify everything for him - in order to calm down.

Preventive measures

Everything is extremely simple:

1. Don't argue in front of your child.
2. Do not put pressure, do not use psychological and physical violence.
3. Try to talk more. Discuss interesting topics.
4. Encourage imagination.
5. Praise your son or daughter, motivate him to develop.
6. If your relationships with peers are not going well, talk to a psychologist. If the recommendations do not work, try to create a social circle. Children of friends, sports and creative clubs. These are all great opportunities.
7. When symptoms of a mental disorder appear, take your child to a psychiatrist immediately. You can choose a private doctor if you are afraid of a stigmatizing diagnosis. This will be the best solution.

Parents' confusion

When this difficult and difficult period for everyone comes, parents are lost and do not know how to behave and how to react to all this. Even if this is not the first baby in the house, the situation in the family is still tense. And it becomes unbearable for family members to live in such a difficult atmosphere: a nervous child, constant hysterics, strained relationships between household members.

Unfortunately, a family that is faced with such problems rarely seeks advice and help from a specialist. And most often he turns to various forums and his friends for advice. The advice of such acquaintances varies. And no one is safe from receiving “toxic” advice. In such cases, people advise frightened parents to “ask well so that they know for the future.”

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But here it should be remembered that such a method will not only not bring good results, but will also break the trusting relationship between the baby and the parent. Thus, by resorting to such methods of education, parents make the child more and more nervous. And his behavior is deteriorating more and more, and now his parents’ nerves are on edge...